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Birth and Death; Creation and Destruction: Emerging Renewed

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Once again we meet the pivot of the dark moon.  What in you, in your life, is dying?  What is emerging new?  What in the world as we know it is dying?  What is emerging renewed? What is scaring you?  What is inspiring you?  What is naturally being shed like an old skin, and what is spiraling in you that will animate this next phase in your mission as a human?

Paying attention to cycles and seasons can anchor us into the reliability and inevitability of birth and death, creation and destruction.  One cannot exist without the other.  In a way, being part of this wildly alive and oscillating matrix of living and dying can be reassuring, even exciting; on the other hand, it can be – and often is – terrifying.  And painful.  Being alive inherently implores a ritual process of letting go, as in the bleeding phase of the menstrual cycle, a snake shedding its skin, a tree releasing its leaves to ground-covering compost in the fall, or the death of a beloved elder.  Coming to terms with the impermanence of everything and everyone around us can be painful; coming to terms with the impermanence of who we are (or, perhaps more accurately, who we think we are) can also be disorienting.  Yet such transitions are inevitable. 

Thus, the reassuring cliché “this too shall pass.”

While dark moons offer us a cyclical encounter with the process of death, new moons and the springtime usher in divinely inspired opportunities for re-birth and growth.  Yes, divinely inspired. 

When spring is in the air, the forces of nature are more easily harnessed and available for our growing momentum; for the growth of our gardens, our psyches, our life’s work – our healing.  For our part, the wisdom and discipline is to notice, to drop in; to be keen listeners and observers, to feel it and to go for it – whatever “it” means for you.  Each of us a tiny cell in the intricate web of everything, there are gazillions of other cells counting on us to do our unique and creative thing – to keep our shine on and to connect with the shine in all the other little cells; to do our part, keep our temple clean and healthy, and hold hands with the others in solidarity. 

This body that we inhabit, this vessel – this temple - is ours to steward, heal, and experience life – and death – with and through.  This body, sovereign and whole in its own right, infused with the mystery as well as the capacity for logic and free will, is beckoning for our love and attention on this day of the dark moon. 

Dark moons are for letting go – even if for just an hour – into quietude and deep listening.  Springtime is an invitation to embody the creatrix – with our imaginations, our hands, our inner knowing. 

Kali, Hindu Goddess of Destruction and Rebirth

Kali, Hindu Goddess of Destruction and Rebirth

By you this universe is born, by you this world is created.

By you it is protected, O Devi.  By you it is consumed at the end.

You who are eternally the form of the whole world,

at the time of creation you are the form of the creative force,

at the time of preservation you are the form of the protective power,

and at the time of dissolution of the world you are the form of the destructive power. 

-Devi-Mahatmaya

What in you is dying?  Is there something in you, in your life, that needs to be destroyed, or cast out?

Relieved now of decaying tissue, the weight of past experiences and thought patterns, what in you is shining forth, renewed and refortified? 

Embody courage.  The world is ready. 

 References:

The Heart of the Goddess; Art, Myth and Meditations of the World’s Sacred Feminine, by Hallie Iglehart Austen

Kali Rising; Foundational Principles of Tantra for a Transforming Planet, by Rudolph Ballentine

Conversations in the Red Tent: The Art of Seasonal Harvesting for Wisdom and Renewal

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Harvesting lessons for wisdom cultivation, giving myself to darkness that fertilizes dreams, and sowing seeds of renewal is what the fall season implores for me.  

This annual phenomenon of late life glory role models what it means to gracefully let go, how to allow and bear witness to the natural process of decay and death, and how nature deeply appreciates the wisdom and well-earned beauty of life that has aged.  As the nights have become darker and farmers have been delivering ripe fruits and nourishing roots, the tenets of the ‘Honorable Harvest’ that I learned from Robin Wall Kimmerer’s writings during this past year (see below) are deeply inhabiting my dreams, and my yearnings for a renewed way of life.  I am gently releasing parts of my emotional landscape that have served me, taught me - in some cases tore through me - to embark on more wholesome ways of relating to the earth, an organic sense of “home” and belonging, and ever more intelligent and authentic ways of relating to other humans as well as the other inhabitants of the planet. 

According to Robin Wall Kimmerer, a renowned professor of environmental and forest biology and enrolled member of the Citizen Potawatomi Nation, as written in her book Braiding Sweetgrass, if the guidelines for an Honorable harvest were to be “made official” (generally they are not in traditionally oral cultures, but they are well understood and faithfully practiced), they might look something like this:  

“Know the ways of the ones who take care of you so that you may take care of them. 

Introduce yourself.  Be accountable as the one who comes asking for life.

Ask permission before taking.  Never take the last.

Take only what you need.

Take only that which is given.

Never take more than half.  Leave some for others.

Harvest in a way that minimizes harm.

Use it respectfully.  Never waste what you have taken.

Share.

Give thanks for what you have been given.

Give a gift, in reciprocity for what you have taken. 

Sustain the ones who sustain you and the earth will last forever.”

Upon deep introspection, for me, living according to principles of the Honorable Harvest would begin with manners of self care, community and living with purpose that vigorously question and challenge the norms and currencies of civilized societies.  In short, in a digital, chemicalized and commercially driven society, it is my experience that what feels like the honorable choice is usually not convenient, quick, or widely celebrated.  Holistic choices are – perhaps necessarily - cumbersome, expensive, and made where no one is looking.  

Trees majestically demonstrate the graceful art of letting go of what’s old, allowing its once lush flora to tumble on the cool, crisp breeze back to the earth; creating a thick, nourishing carpet for the forest floor and compost that will nourish and protect many roots and life forms in the immediate environment. 

Our human processes of letting go according to seasons and cycles can and do turn up in fits of grief or other strong emotional discharge; the menstrual cycle; seasonal allergies or illnesses; or intuitively knowing that a change is imminent or necessary.  The natural urge to let go can show up as personal, relational, community, or ecologic turmoil.  The process of change and releasing what is old and stale can disrupt our equilibrium and therefore feel profoundly uncomfortable, so it is exactly at these moments when the deep nourishment of well-prepared, organic seasonal foods, meditation, gentle movement practices, and deep rest will be supportive and very likely transformative.  

“I think we are called to go beyond cultures of gratitude, to once again become cultures of reciprocity.”  - RWK

I would like to invite our community into a conversation about what the notion of ‘The Honorable Harvest’ means for us city dwellers, and how we can be proactive stewards for earth and a wholesome humanity.  How would the principles of The Honorable Harvest urge us to change our way of relating with food?  Earth?  Loved ones?  Strangers? Community?  Commerce?  Our self care?

“It is an animate earth that we hear calling to us to feed the martens and kiss the rice.  Wild leeks and wild ideas are in jeopardy.  We have to transplant them both and nurture their return to the lands of their birth.  We have to carry them across the wall, restoring the Honorable Harvest, bringing back the medicine.”  - RWK

The winds of change are upon us.  Let us breathe slowly and deeply and make the choices necessary to cultivate health, wisdom, and resilience. 

Join our Red Tent Community for a forest walk and conversation this week:

Date: Wednesday, October 14, 2020

Time: 1 p.m. - 3 p.m.

Place: Eindhoven, contact host for location

Plan for rain or shine!

Please email to RSVP

Read more about the Red Tent here

Self Care: Your Blood, Sweat and Tears

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, overwork and over-exercise can drain our vital fluids and eventually our organ systems and leave us feeling weak, tired, and vulnerable.  Over time this chips away at our constitutional strength and leaves us susceptible to emotional imbalances, menstrual difficulties and chronic disease.  As we become older and wiser, our body’s capacity to replenish our blood and vital fluids gradually diminishes.  Excessive sweating (as with frequent intense exercise) hastens and complicates this process and can diminish our constitutional ability to maintain a healthy and active lifestyle as we age.  Women are especially at risk for chronic conditions related to weakened blood and body fluids because of their unique physiology. 

Of course, excessive inactivity is as harmful as anything else we do in excess, and weakens us by causing Qi, Blood and turbid fluids to stagnate and accumulate. If you don't enjoy going to the gym, then don't.  But commit to some regular daily activity that engages your whole body, relaxes your mind and appeals to your senses.  Try walking in nature, dancing, gardening, building a snowman….

A daily routine of moderate exercise performed at the same time every day, like regular sleep and mealtimes, helps to create a routine of self-care that your body learns it can count on.  When your body recognizes that it can trust you to provide it with what it needs, then the body and mind begin to relax, organs and systems become harmonious, and life becomes less of a constant upstream effort. 

Many traditional medicine texts discourage exercise during the bleeding phase of the menstrual cycle.  In order for blood to flow out easily and painlessly, it is essential that the body be relaxed and adequate Qi be available in the pelvis to move the Blood.  In yogic traditions, inversions (yoga poses where your hips are higher than your head) are not recommended while a woman is bleeding because the positional change can disrupt the down-and-outward flowing energy that governs the movement of menstrual blood.  If you have pain or other symptoms associated with your period, it may be worth modifying your exercise routine for a few cycles to see if you notice any change in symptoms. 

If you work out frequently and full-on and find yourself experiencing chronic injuries, frequent colds, poor sleep, moodiness, irritability or anxiety, feeling cold, hot flashes, menstrual difficulties or digestive issues, your exercise routine may be draining you more than it's supporting you. 

 

Click below for a free printable handout.

 

Sources and Further Reading

Maciocia, G. (1998). Obstetrics & Gynecology in Chinese Medicine. Edinburgh: Churchill Livingstone.

Zhao, X. (2006). Ancient Healing for Modern Women. New York: Walker & Company.

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